It’s been nearly four months since we drove to Virginia to move Sarah in for her Freshman year of college.
We spent most of the summer preparing for this new adventure. It seems so long ago now.
Over the years, I’ve learned the importance of preparation. After all, as the saying goes, “Failing to plan is planning to fail.” Life can quickly become overwhelming, so being organized and planning ahead helps me avoid crisis situations. I knew Sarah going to college was going to be a big transition for all of us, and as with any new experience, I wanted her to be prepared.
So we started making lists.
We had a list for her dorm room, a list for her bathroom, a list for emergencies— I may even have had a list of all our lists!
When move-in day finally came, we loaded up the car, survived the tearful goodbyes with her siblings, and drove six and a half hours to her new home. We organized her closet and lofted her bed. We decorated her walls and set up her desk. Even with all our lists, Jeff had to run to the store to buy extra command hooks and a coffee cart for her Keurig. But when the day was done, her new home was ready, and there was only one thing left to do.
As we sat down for dinner munching on a bowl of chips and salsa, the three of us began to realize that the hard part was only beginning. By the time the waiter brought our food, we just sat and stared at it… we couldn’t even eat. The dread of what was waiting on the other side of that meal completely eradicated our appetite.
Before we knew it, the bill was paid, and the time came for us to say goodbye to our girl.
We hugged. Then we cried. Then we hugged and cried some more. And we dispensed every piece of parental advice we could possibly think of:
Don’t walk anywhere alone at night.
Make sure you take your vitamins and drink enough water.
Call us if you need more clothes.
Don’t forget you have a COVID emergency bag in the top of your closet!
And on and on and on…
(It’s amazing how much you realize you never told your child when it is suddenly time for them to survive on their own!)
Finally, we gave her one last squeeze and watched her drive away.
To her new home.
“What in the world are we doing?” Jeff asked, as her taillights disappeared from sight. The two of us were a sobbing mess.
And that is when I realized our mistake.
We had made all the lists, followed all the advice, and bought all the things so she would be prepared for her new adventure.
But there was one thing we had failed to prepare:
Friends, as we approach the Christmas season, how are you preparing your heart?
I love Christmas like the next girl, but I’m not going to lie- I can easily get overwhelmed with ALL THE THINGS.
Cookie swaps and class parties.
Teacher gifts and family gatherings.
Stockings and garland and Christmas lights. (Oh my!)
On top of all that, or maybe hidden underneath, is the meaning of what we’re celebrating. And if I’m honest, as much as I love baby Jesus, He often gets left in the manger while I’m busy trying to do everything else. So I’ve learned that when it comes to the holidays, preparing my heart is so important.
In Luke 10, we read the story of two sisters who opened their home to Jesus. Apparently, they were not expecting Him, because Martha was “distracted by all the preparations that had to be made.” (v. 40, NIV) While she was busy sweeping the floor and kneading the dough and doing all the things, Mary was content to sit at Jesus’ feet.
Yet, when Martha complains to Jesus, he doesn’t jump to her defense. He shows compassion for her predicament, but He affirms Mary’s priorities.
This used to bother me. If preparation is so important, shouldn’t Jesus have encouraged Mary to help Martha? Surely the One who washed His friends’ feet understands the value of serving others!
So I knew there must be a deeper lesson.
I think the point Jesus was trying to make is that while physical preparation is important, spiritual preparation is imminently more valuable.
While Martha was surprised by Jesus’ visit, we are not. As Christmas approaches, we know it is coming.
We know Jesus was born in a stable because no one had prepared room for Him in the Inn.
We know the wise men eventually found Him because they were prepared to follow the star.
And we know a teenage girl was chosen because she was prepared to be obedient, whatever the cost.
Intentional planning and hard work today pave the way for peace and rest later. Preparing in advance enables me to be fully present, and allows me to focus on what is most important. Yet so often, I focus on getting things ready on the outside, forgetting the inside altogether.
So, friends, as we make our shopping lists and stock the freezer with cookie dough, let’s also take time to sit at the Master’s feet.
To hear His voice.
To gaze in wonder at the One who changed everything!
I have some really fun things planned for the blog this month, and I am hoping some of them will help you prepare in different ways. One of my greatest blessings during the pandemic was the opportunity to join a hope*circle of writing friends from various backgrounds, life stages, and parts of the country (and one Canadian!).
Sharing everything from devotions to recipes, these sweet friends are going to guest post for me this month, and I am super excited to introduce them to you! I think you’re going to love them! (I do!)
I hope you will take time to read their contributions and glean from their experiences.
It is my prayer that you will find a few things here on the blog this month that help you with the oh-so-important task of preparing your heart for Christmas this year!